07 May Why Couples Love Swinging
There are many reasons couples love swinging, especially couples who’ve previously had a sexless marriage. The lack of sexual desire could result from boredom under the sheets or a disconnect in the relationship itself. However, more and more sex therapists are helping couples open up to an alternative lifestyle like swinging to help them transform their relationship— in and out of the bedroom.
Swinging is a consensually non-monogamous relationship to bring couples closer together by encouraging trust, inciting excitement, and seeing the other partner satisfied. Couples who have found themselves stuck in sexless relationships should read on, discovering how the lifestyle can help revitalize those flaming passions.
Voyeurism Builds Excitement
Voyeurism is a gentle way to take part in the swinger lifestyle that can help restore passion between lovers without intimately engaging with another. Voyeurism is the act of watching each other or others engage in sex or sexy actions. These can include self-pleasure, stripteases, heading to a voyeur club, or viewing porn together. Make sure to check out our favorite sex toys to spice things up in the bedroom!
Being on Display
Sexless relationships often just need a bit of newness thrown in. Couples doing something far outside their norm—and maybe even their comfort zone—can be rather exciting, and flowing endorphins can lead to sexual arousal.
The aim is to allow others to view your intimate moments, which may be sexual or not. This could be walking naked on the beach, taking the stage at a swingers club, or visiting a nudist colony. Just the sheer exhilaration of being ‘seen’ can bring the vigor and arousal back to the bedroom once you get home.
Partner Swaps to Turn on the Heat
Those just starting out or getting back into the lifestyle tend to start with a soft swap where there is no sex, just petting and kissing. Ready to go all the way or allow a partner that needs sex to get that satisfaction? A full swap means penetrative sex. Sometimes they just get so turned on they can’t help but want to make love more often again. Threesomes and polyamory are good options for couples seeking to bring on a part-time or full-time fill-in for their sexless marriage, but all situations are different.