Swinger Stories - The Swinging Community

Swinger Stories – The Swinging Community

Swinger Stories – The Swinging Community is about a young male’s recent experiences in the swinging community. He meets like-minded people along the way who help him navigate the new wonderful world of swinging.

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Swinger Stories - The Swinging Community

Swinger Stories – The Swinging Community

“Being a younger guy who recently made the jump into the swinger/non-monogamy world, it’s only been the last few years where I’ve felt “normal” about my kinks and wanted to reiterate how important such a sense of community has been for me.

For the longest time, I felt the need to conform and repress my desires out of fear of not being accepted for who I am. It actually got to the point where I was willing to convince myself that conforming to social norms to try to make long-term relationships work was actually the “moral thing to do.” As twisted as that logic may sound, it was largely the result of growing up in an extremely conservative household – my parent’s version of “Sex Ed” was brie religiously inspired lecture.

“I hit rock bottom.”

Eventually, I was forced to learn the hard way that you can’t force relationships, vanilla or otherwise, and everything came crashing down. This was the beginning of a very dark chapter in my life where I began investing an unhealthy amount of time into my professional aspirations and drinking heavily to compensate. Not too long after, I hit rock bottom.

As challenging as this point in my life was, it ended up being the kick in the ass I needed to start being true to myself. I made an SDC profile and started forcing myself out of my comfort zone by taking the initiative to meet like-minded people.

“I was lucky enough to meet an amazing couple.”

As a single guy, I won’t pretend that this was easy. There were numerous setbacks at the beginning as I was trying to figure things out. That being said, I eventually learned that it wasn’t such a different dynamic than traditional dating. As a result, this led to more (play) dates and better overall chemistry, which led to better overall experiences for all parties involved.

Now I know it can be taboo to talk about serious issues with other swingers. After all, it’s a big-time investment to find playdates, so it’s only natural for the bulk of the attention to be on the fun of getting together. BUT I was lucky enough to meet an amazing couple that I had an emotional connection with who also endured similar challenges in their upbringing.

“Swinger Mentors.”

We talked about how we got started in the lifestyle, the challenges we’ve faced, and what it was exactly we wanted out of this lifestyle. This really allowed us to bond and connected over non-swinger-related things, such as music, hobbies, fitness…etc. We eventually became such good friends that we felt comfortable talking about our other sexual experiences.

In short, they became my “swinger mentors” and were instrumental in passing on countless pieces of important advice (ex: what type of pictures to upload, how to write a good bio, how to avoid awkward conversations…etc.).

Thank you to the experienced people in the lifestyle that help make the newbies feel welcomed! You’re a big reason why the swinger community is so awesome!”

 

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