20 Jul How To Keep Your Relationship Fresh
Break the mundane and keep your relationship fresh with these helpful relationship tips! Fall back in love with your partner and your relationship by being YOU.
If You Like Piña Coladas
Anyone who has ever been in a long-term relationship will know that sometimes, things get boring. Have you ever listened to the song “Escape (The Piña Colada Song)” by Rupert Holmes? If, for some reason, the answer is no, have a listen, and you’ll better understand what we’re about to talk about.
The song states how the singer is tired of his lady because they’ve been together for so long. He and his lady have fallen into the same old dull routine. Sound familiar? He reads an ad in the newspaper from a girl looking for someone who likes Piña Colada and making love at midnight.
The song ends with the singer meeting the girl from the ad, only to find out it was his wife looking to escape her boring, mundane marriage! If you find your relationship routine mind-numbingly boring, chances are your partner does too!
It really is a great song, but there are definitely steps you can take before going behind your spouse’s back and writing an ad to find a new lover to escape your boring routine love life.
How To Keep Your Relationship Fresh
So, what can you both do to ensure your relationship doesn’t age before its time? Of course, you can do the obvious things to break the mundane and keep your relationship fresh such as romantic couple getaways, going on more dates, etc. But I find these more so just delay the inevitable. To really keep your relationship fresh, and ignite the spark you once felt between the two of you, some individual, as well as group work, needs to be done.
Keep Yourself Appealing
Many of us fall into the habit of neglecting our looks when we are in a relationship. We seem to think that just because we have someone it means no effort is required to keep them. Of course, this is wrong. You should want your partner to find you attractive no matter the length of time you have been together. This isn’t just for your partner’s benefit, but for yours too. Keeping yourself healthy and attractive is key to maintaining a strong physical bond with your partner.
Have Your Own Interests and Hobbies
Being in a relationship, it’s common to adopt your partner’s interests and hobbies. It’s a normal thing to do, especially as it means you can do these things together as a couple. If your partner loves history and reads a lot about the topic, you might start reading into it also to have engaging discussions. However, this becomes an issue when you stop doing the things that you like to do, only to replace them with the things only your partner likes to do.
The reason it’s so important to keep your own interests and hobbies is that your partner does not want (or at least, should not want) to go out with someone whos just like them in terms of every interest, every hobby, every opinion. It’s mentally healthy to have something you can do that’s just for you. It creates independence and gives you an outlet for some much needed “you” time in the relationship,
Don’t Stop Making an Effort With Friends
Another trap many of us fall into when we’re in love and comfortable with our partners. Of course, being in a relationship is sometimes like having a second job. It requires time, effort, and a lot of work. However, this does not mean that you should neglect meeting friends and family and maintaining these relationships that are so important for your mental well-being.
Making time for the people in your life that you care about is not only important for you, but for your partner too. You are both your own people. You were before you met and you will be if you ever go your separate ways. Don’t neglect friends and family, as they are the ones who tend to always stick around.
Be Nice To Eachother
This is an obvious one right? RIGHT? When you’re comfortable with someone and have been with them for a period of time, it’s easier to be mean to them. We often find ourselves getting angry with our partners over the smallest inconveniences because… well, we can? We know they love us and so snapping back can be a lot easier to do to someone you are comfortable with than a coworker or an acquaintance. Stonewalling is another common thing we can do to our partners when we are annoyed or upset, but don’t know how to communicate our issues to them.
Being kind to your partner, showing compassion, and listening to their needs is the key to keeping your relationship healthy. When they suggest new activities to do with you, don’t shut them down. Explore new adventures together.
Disclaimer: I am not a professional, I give advice on my own experiences and talk about topics that interest me and that I think others will find beneficial.