29 Jun 3 Reasons Why People Cheat
Unfortunately, many people have experienced cheating in a relationship. Whether you’re the cheater or not, it can be a traumatic thing for all involved. We’ve narrowed it down to the top 3 reasons people cheat in relationships and discuss the motives behind and the signs to spot.
3 Reasons Why People Cheat
Relationships are hard and oftentimes, people escape their relationship problems by embracing another. We do not condone cheating in any way. However, it is important to understand why one decides to cheat on their partner. What were the events leading up to the moment of infidelity?
It’s important to remember we are trying to understand the psychology behind the reasons why people cheat. Obviously, there are cases where people are just selfish and have no respect for their partners. This article explains why some people might cheat on a partner, even though they still love them.
1. Loneliness in the Relationship
Couples often go through ups and downs and can find that somedays they are just not on the same wavelength. These days are normal, but when these periods of time start to stretch and you feel like you can’t connect with your partner it can cause you to feel quite lonely.
Life is hectic and relationships are very much like another job. You have to work at them to keep the love alive. When couples don’t do this they can drift apart and experience deep unhappy loneliness for how the relationship once was.
If you have difficulty communicating in your relationship and don’t know how to bring these issues to your partner’s attention, your relationship will start to crumble and will make it much easier for someone to be tempted to seek comfort from another. They act out of loneliness and the need for connection more so than seeking physical gratification.
Everyone has had different lives and different experiences. Some people may have commitment issues due to being hurt in the past. This means when things start getting serious they may be tempted to cheat and sabotage the relationship in order to prevent a long-term commitment from forming. It’s a reaction to a traumatic past experience that they fear they will relive if they let you get too close and hold any power over them.
This doesn’t mean that they don’t love you or want to be with you, it’s more of a toxic pattern they’ve implemented so they don’t experience the pain they felt before. Openly communicating with your partner and being empathetic towards their fears will go a long way to keep your relationship secure.
I’m including Revenge in my 3 reasons why people cheat, as I believe it is a big one. When you’re in love and your partner cheats (for whatever reason), it can be heartbreaking, but also very angering. People lash out in different ways, and a big one is to get “one-up” on their partner or “even the score”.
They seek to hurt their partner intentionally as they too have been hurt. Hoping to create a jealous feeling from their partner. People who do this to each other usually always end up getting back together.
I often wonder why couples don’t consider the option of moving away from a monogamous relationship. It’s becoming evident in the world that one person cannot be your everything. It’s too much to ask that of one person. You should be that for yourself and love your partner for whatever they can be for you.
I know the idea of opening your relationship can be daunting, but if you are experiencing these issues in your relationships, of infidelity, but you love each other and want to make it work, then having a serious discussion about what can be done to ensure both parties are happy in the relationship. Even if it means discussing opening up the relationship and being more adventurous with one another.